Among the complex range of experiences that make up manhood—and the continuum of masculinities—some men are not only uncovering the source of their own pain, but also getting in touch with their accompanying, heart-wrenching feelings.
Heart contracts; numbness and tears collide. Ten dead, 13 wounded; this time in Santa Fe, Texas. If we're ever to end the blood baths, we have to put gender at the center of the national conversation about mass murders. Here’s a news flash for the media: The location of the killings is only one way … Continue reading Raising Boys to Love and Care, Not Kill
It’s time to listen to the students. Across the country, teenagers have walked out of classes, stood in holy silence, and delivered stirring speeches calling out their elders for failing to prevent their schools from becoming shooting ranges for raging men. On Saturday they’ll protest in Washington with adult allies among the throngs in the … Continue reading Students: Time is Ripe to Add Gender to Gun Debate
Where are the men? Since last fall, when Harvey Weinstein and his predator brothers were exposed for enacting poisonous masculinity, I’ve heard that question a lot. More and more women are speaking out—and, thankfully, being believed. Two simple words—“Me, too”—have sparked a movement that’s woken a lot of people up. That’s essential. Almost entirely absent from the global conversation is … Continue reading #MeToo: “Where Are the Men?” Hiding in Plain Sight for 40 Years
Enough is enough! Not another obfuscating word from you know who that “it’s not time to talk about gun control.”
Forget Harvey Weinstein. And Bill Cosby, and Bill O’Reilly, and Roger Ailes. But do remember the women. Remember all the women, famous and unknown, who have survived everything from catcalls to rape for as far back as well, forever.
Again. Worse than ever. A horrifying mass murder by a lone killer. This time in Las Vegas.
Like our slaveholding first president—not our current one—I cannot tell a lie: we must chop down the poisonous tree of white supremacist masculinity.
The white male bully temporarily occupying the White House represents the worst expression of manhood the U.S. has ever seen, but that dangerous truth is being obscured by so many of his other treacherous actions.
Will Donald Trump change his attitude toward women?